Nice Guys Finish Last…

There’s a famous saying “Nice Guys Finish Last” and I’ve been thinking of that of late, and to be honest if you look at it , it does seem to be true… As chandler once said in friends “you’re such a nice guy’ means: ‘I’m going to be dating leather wearing alcoholics, and complaining about them – to you.’”

So what is it? Why is it that girls seem to prefer the ones that are going to treat them wrong? To be honest I can’t answer that question, why would someone put themselves under more hurt then they need to be? I don’t understand it nor do I attempt to understand it… But yet, it has made me think, should I change? Should I stop caring? Should I become one of those guys that I have disapproved of for so long?

“Chandler, Friends: — “you’re such a nice guy’ means: ‘I’m going to be dating leather wearing alcoholics, and complaining about them – to you.’” –”

Well if I am honest, I have tried it before but I just couldn’t do it, I have a conscious and I cared too much about what I was actually doing… No matter how hard I tried, nor how much I distracted myself, I couldn’t escape the morals that I hold within myself. Sure, we all make mistakes in life, but we don’t all regret them…

So I am in a bit a predicament, I can’t be the person that I supposedly need to be to succeed, yet the person I am at the moment isn’t the person I apparently need to be… A while back I met someone who totally contradicted this principle, she was looking for someone who wouldn’t treat her wrong, but at the same time wasn’t just doing so because she has been hurt so much she just couldn’t take it anymore. That cruel obstacle called distance meant that I had to let her go, and let her lead her life to the full no matter how much it hurt both of us. So years down the line, I have yet to find someone of a similar nature…

Should I give up? Should I keep going? Should I kill my soul and my conscious in an attempt to change who I am? They aren’t easy questions that’s for sure and to be honest I hate this somber reality, and no matter how much I avoid it in my life and keep my chirpy, humorous self, the moment I have a second to think it returns to bite me in the arse.

The reality is though of the 3 questions above there really is only one question and answer that makes sense, the question “Should I Keep Going?” the answer “yes”; even though its likely through my travels I meet more and more hurt, if I don’t keep going as I am the only person who is going to suffer is me. I can’t be who I’m not, its just not possible, you can’t change the person you are, and if I give up then I’m sealing my own fate and confining me to one resulting life, a life that I finish alone.

“What if I don’t succeed? Then I’ll know at least that I went out putting up a fight, a fight that I’ll do anything I can not to lose, as long as it doesn’t involve changing the person I am…”

Yes, I know this all sounds very somber and pessimistic, and in truth it would be if I was deciding to give up on it all, but the fact is I’m not, I’m going to continue doing what I am doing… I’m sticking to who I am, to my morals, and the way I deal with the hits I receive in life, in the hope that maybe one day I’ll find someone again who is looking for the person I am. What if I don’t succeed? Then I’ll know at least that I went out putting up a fight, a fight that I’ll do anything I can not to lose, as long as it doesn’t involve changing the person I am…

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