Hey there all, first of all Happy New year, I hope you all had a fantastic Christmas, and enjoyed your new years celebrations, and I hope you got everything you wanted this Christmas!

Sorry I haven’t written here in a while, I was away for xmas, and dial-up connections are not the best when it comes to maintaining things like this, and then since I have got back to the UK I have been very busy, but now I am settled I can get back to keeping you all up to date with my thoughts.

Oh by the way, those of you who have registered at my site, and also those of you I talk to often online, or who I have the e-mail address of, should have received a Christmas Greeting that I had designed from scratch, if you didn’t get it, please let me know and I will send it to you again, but be aware it may have been caught by your SPAM filter so check your junk mail inbox first.

Secondly, let me say that I plan to update this blog at the LEAST once a week, so keep an eye out, if you don’t want to have to keep an eye on this page all the time, there are two methods to keep up to date you can either keep an eye out at SpikedEffect.com where on the right hand side there is a dynamic block to show my latest blog entry title, so you’ll know exactly when I update this. Or alternatively, if you have an RSS syndicator, or desktop alert system, use the RSS script generated by this page (right click the link to the right and choose – copy link location – and paste the link into your RSS reader) Blog RSS Link.

“I’ll be starting work on a few projects in my free time this week, one of which will be developing something new for my website. Not sure what aspect I am going to be developing, whatever takes my fancy I would guess, or of course you could have your say and vote at SpikedEffect.com in the current poll.”

So, what’s been going on? Not much in some senses, I’ve been very busy at work, and this week is going to be even more busy, I have a big project I’ve been assigned to, so I’ll be pretty bogged down with that. Also I’ll be starting work on a few projects in my free time this week, one of which will be developing something new for my website. Not sure what aspect I am going to be developing, whatever takes my fancy I would guess, or of course you could have your say and vote at SpikedEffect.com in the current poll.

So what’s on my mind as of late? Well a lot as of late, with certain events taking place I’ve been thinking about responsibility in love, and the decisions you make when it comes to those you care about… I guess the real question is, how honest can you be with the person your with? I honestly believe that there is no better way to be than 100% honest and 100% upfront with them, because at least they are hearing the worst from you and not someone else, or finding out for themselves.

O.K. so I know its never easy telling someone you’ve cheated on them, it’s never easy telling someone you don’t feel the same way for them anymore, it’s never easy telling them that something they are doing is really getting to you and it’s never easy seeing their reaction when you tell them… But even so, its better they know, because at least then there is room for forgiveness and, or, understanding; it also gives an inclination of what there is to “fix” in a relationship, if it can be fixed, and if it can’t then at least you still have the grounds to part as friends… Which is better than loosing someone you’ve spent some good moments with…

Also, recently I have come across someone who has made a pact with their current partner to cut all of their ex’s out of their life completely regardless of whether they are genuine friends or not… Now, whilst I understand why a couple may make such a pact, isn’t it like saying that you don’t trust them? Like come on, get real, why try and change your partner’s life? Aren’t you there to be a positive and add to their life, rather then remove parts of the past? If you look at it sensibly, if your partner is still friends with his/her exs then why should it matter? They are exs for a reason, and its unlikely that anything will happen, but even if it does, surely all that should matter is that they are happy? Just a thought…

“If your partner is still friends with his/her exs then why should it matter? They are exs for a reason, and its unlikely that anything will happen, but even if it does, surely all that should matter is that they are happy?”

Ok, so we all know that one of the most misused phrases in the world is “I Love you” but what sometimes baffles me as well as amuses me, is that people still use it as though it’s like saying “I like you”… I know with me I do my utmost not to use the words “I love you” until I am 100% I mean it, and I’d do my utmost not to get caught up in the moment and just say it for the “sake” of saying it… After all if you love someone enough, you don’t need to say it, they will know by the actions you take. So, next time you think of saying “I love you” just give it a thought before you do and just think whether it is the right thing to say or not…

Right I think that is it for now, I’ve got plenty more to say but hey I can post as many posts here as I like so no need to use them all in one blog entry! Anyway take care all, catch up with you soon!