Pressures Of Today’s Society…

In today’s world, we all live, lives of expectation not only in the goals we set ourselves, but of social standards and ways of thinking…

I guess the main aspect of this is social acceptability, and the attitude and persona you adapt to, just so that you can fit in… Personally I do not believe in changing yourself to suit others, but in today’s age and society there are quite a majority that do…

But the pressures you can put yourselves under in trying to achieve this “acceptability” is quite astonishing at times, and it proves to be the source of depression and in some cases conditions such as bulimia which are know to source closely from the pressures of today’s society.

I know social acceptability can be important to a person because no one likes to feel left out, or not in with the “in crowd” but the way I see it is if people can’t accept you for who you are then they really aren’t worth the time of day. Changing yourself is impossible, you were born the person you are and trying to change that, can prove the bring you more troubles than its actually worth.

“The way I see it is if people can’t accept you for who you are then they really aren’t worth the time of day.”

By attempting to change yourself, and putting on a false front you are only going to attract the falseness of a non-substance relationship with your “apparent” friends, and its only when it comes to your time of need that you will find they are no where to be seen and you are left to suffer on your own…

So I ask you? Is it really worth putting yourself through that? I would much rather prefer one or two close friends who I knew would be there for me through thick and thin then a whole load of friends who would just ditch me at the first sign of trouble. I see it the same when it comes to relationships and the opposite sex, I would rather a person I am with to be there for me any way I come, and not just to be attracted to my physical aspects, someone who doesn’t matter what shape or size you come in, but are there because of the person you are… And I’d rather be lonely than deal with shallowness and falseness in today’s society.

I know not everyone thinks the way I do, but I truly can’t understand why people put themselves under so much pressure to change who they are just for the benefit of others, the only person you should change for is you and even then that should only be for self-satisfaction… But if you don’t love yourself in one way or the other then how on earth can anyone else love you?

By trying to meet everyone else’s expectations you will pull yourself into a false sense of security, that may feel great whilst it lasts, but when it comes crumbling down, then so will you…

So anyone reading this and is thinking this sounds very familiar, step back for a minute and think, is what you are doing really worth it? Come on, being you is what makes you unique… If we were all the same, this world would be an extremely boring place, but the different personalities in this world add to its adventure and excitement… But don’t demolish that personality in attempt to fit in, because it is then you loose your identity, and that thing that makes you the special person you are, and at the end of it all, those who really care will accept you the way you are and any way you come…

“By trying to meet everyone else’s expectations you will pull yourself into a false sense of security, that may feel great whilst it lasts, but when it comes crumbling down, then so will you…”

So at the end of the day, remember who you are is enough, and to those that really matter they will see you exactly that way, don’t become victim to the pressures of today’s society… You’ll find yourself coming off that whole lot better…

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