Having watched the news a minute ago, there was a new story regarding bullying within schools and it made me think back to when I first started at school in Bristol, and how I was subject to bullying to begin with…

But how does bullying effect people? Well its obvious it effects them there and then, but I am thinking beyond that. I think you can see it kind of like a glass with a crack in it, it will still work and hold liquid, but any further pressure on that crack and the glass will break or fall apart.

In the same way I believe the tears that are shed during the bullying don’t totally disappear, an inner tear remains as a reminder of what went on in the past. Like with any other pain you face in life, experiencing being bullied makes you grow stronger so that you can overcome it, yet deep down that bullying will leave an insecurity in you waiting to be triggered. If someone manages to find that trigger, that “soft spot” you could find that insecurity showing face again and emotions boiling up from the past.

“You can see it kind of like a glass with a crack in it, it will still work and hold liquid, but any further pressure on that crack and the glass will break or fall apart.”

It’s a shame when such a “scar” is left on a person as we all have our strengths, that if seen right, can outweigh our negatives, yet insecurities make that so much more difficult to achieve. Bullying is not easy to control, it’s a product of immaturity, and you can’t expect the children in the playground to be mature enough to know just how much harm they are causing when they bully.

They do say however that bullying is jealousy’s cousin, and I remember reassuring words being spoken to me once saying “they do it because they are jealous of you in some way or form” and I guess that really does make you think… Think of the typical victims of bullying, the “smart” kids, sometimes the “happy” kids, and then you start to see there may be some truth in this…

“We all have our strengths, that if seen right, can outweigh our negatives, yet insecurities make that so much more difficult to achieve.”

Bullying seems a form of fustration, venting their mishaps on those who don’t have their misfortunes… So when those insecurities arise that have laid dormant from the times you were bullied, just think, why? Was it because you were smarter? Was it because you had a good family who loved you, when they didn’t? Was it because you actually had ambitions in life? I know its no consolation from the tears you shed… But find security in your strengths once again, and forget your insecurities, and leave those bullies watching you as you thrive to be the best you can be.