If like me, you like to understand all you can about your partner so that you may further understand how to care for them when they are down, or in stress… But when, if ever, should you pause to think, that in your venture to find out more about your partner, you could come across a past that maybe you’d be better off not knowing?
You see, we have all made mistakes in the past, some with more an impact than others, and sometimes these mistakes could haunt us for a long time after they are made…
But should your partner know your deepest darkest secrets of your past? I guess it depends on your partner’s commitment, will they be able to look beyond your past demons? Or will it grind at them over time, and the trust they had in you before you said anything may slowly fade away…
I think, in a lot of ways its vital you tell your partner about your haunted past… But, at the right time… Your past is what makes you who you are, its how you have grown to be the person you are at that moment in time, and it’s actually your haunted past that has given you the strength to learn from your mistakes…
“I think, in a lot of ways its vital you tell your partner about your haunted past… But, at the right time…”
When you do come about to telling your partner, it could tell you a lot about the way they really feel… But if like I suggested you wait until the right time, you should already know the reaction that is to come… If they care for you as much as they claim they’ll be ready to support you, as they will understand how difficult it is to tell someone about your dark secrets…
Don’t worry too much if they ask for some time just to think about what you just told them, do remember you have given a big part of your past to them, and it may not be pleasant so they will need time to let it sink in… But, you shouldn’t worry because if they care for you as much as they claim they’ll be right back in your arms soon enough…
When you have chosen the right time to spill the beans on your haunted past and things have pulled through, you will find an added closeness between you both, and you may find your partner returns the favour by telling something about their past… So be prepared to be there, the same way they were there for you.
Relationships aren’t easy, and letting someone deeper into your secrets and your past isn’t easy, so you will need to make sure that you do actually choose the right point in the relationship to tell them… When that is? Well that’s your discretion, if you think what you have to say needs to come sooner rather than later, then go with what your heart says…
“someone who genuinely cares will be able to look past it and continue to support you and love you in the same way…”
Remember, someone who genuinely cares will be able to look past it and continue to support you and love you in the same way… So you may need to be prepared, as you really will find out just how much they do care, depending on the level of impact of what you have to tell them.
We all have pasts, some more pleasant than others, at the end of the day it is what makes us the people we grow to be…
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